The asshole's non-apology and miscellaneous stories.

This is the story of a cad, let's call him Fred, who said something truly horrid and hateful to a simple and sincere girl, let's call her Jane. When Fred unleashed his brief but ruthless tirade on Jane, he did so out of frustration at what he perceived to be her uppity attitude. Little did he realize that his reaction was wholly unprovoked and mainly a result of him being a colossal prick! Anyway, Jane employed her usual approach of not showing any emotion in the face of a provoking situation and maintained her silence until Fred marched away angrily. Jane later received a voice-mail from Fred - a purported apology that did nothing but strengthen Jane's resolve to cut off all diplomatic ties with Fred.

The apology began contritely enough, but proceeded to exhibit what a butt-munch Fred really was. It was the non-apology of the format "I'm sorry I was harsh and undeservedly so... but...."(insert Fred type bullshit).

Jane refuses to acknowledge the presence of Fred now onwards.

And yet.. there's the other kind of cad. The one that is supposed to be your friend, does something to disappoint you and then never apologizes for it. To people guilty of such follies let it be said that not apologizing to your friend for being an asshole makes you a bigger asshole. Some offences do have a statute of limitation. If you tarry your apology beyond the statute, your friendship with the person may very well be a thing of the past, and deservedly so.

Cad #2 - I am reallly pissed off with you, you behaved incredibly poorly and I am thoroughly disappointed in your conduct.

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Losing a friend...

I read a blog entry that sparked a thought... (http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/08/15/losing-a-friend-over-money/)

When is it OK to bail on a friend and give up on the person? When can you allow yourself to not feel guilty about passing judgement on a friendship and finally calling it a day? Personally, despite sporting my ultra chic pessimistic exterior, I find that I hold on to hope much longer than other reasonable people would. Its caused me a lot of heartache in the past and I have a feeling that things aren't going to change much in the future in that regard. Although, this past week, I did dodge the friendly (but not overly friendly) advances of a new acquaintance to avoid any possibility of the guy being an ass. I think I've lost faith in my judgement of people.

I've lost faith in most of what people tell me or what I understand from whatever they tell me. I think reading between the lines saves oneself a lot of useless expectations.

Last few words on the thought.. I hope that my anger and disappointment dissolve soon.. its exhausting.

I know I'm not making sense and that I've left out a lot.. whatever...

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Wow! The storks love this family!!

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/6973101.stm

I know this is completely off-base, but whenever someone talks about the stresses of child rearing, I remember how much I want a cat and all the reasons why I don't!! These poor people! Talk about life being full of surprises. When these two people got married, I bet they didn't expect to be popping out 3 in a batch twice!! This is what you get for doing the hokey pokey! :-P

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