the simplest lesson of all, yet so hard to learn

so, one of the biggest lessons that i have learnt in the past few months is the importance of communication and how flawed human perception really is. look at this picture:
http://www.gauravjalan.com/entertainment/pictures/strange/illusion/FrameSet.htm

my eyes took so much for granted that it took me close to 45 seconds to spot the flaw.

the flip side to this realization is questioning when you should trust your instincts. if you doubt everything you see, or allow for the flaw of the frame of reference everytime you make a judgement, then your brain will be overloaded and some decisions are just not worth all that cerebral activity.

i always give myself permission to take the coward's way out and cry "i'm confused!" and ask a question or two that will hopefully help clarify the situation. (that's why i am ok with saying i am agnostic, it allows me to procrastinate making a decision that will probably hurt my parents.)

i really don't like people who are two faced, intentionally, anyway. i know i hide a lot of what i think and actually mislead as well, but to date i think i have done it with malicious intent only when i was ten or so. never done it since. never lied to a person to screw them over in my adult life, intentionally, anyway. (notice i don't say i haven't lied! ;))

charleston... i don't understand the people too much. atlanta really wasn't "southern" in that being on a college campus really cushioned me from the culture of the region. not so in charleston. in my angrier moments i really resent and fume about their two-facedness. but really, i think its a defensive tactic.

i am confused - about a lot of things.